3 Ways to Improve Your Self Esteem Out of a Fail Relationship/ Friendship

One way we learn to value our self-esteem is shown in how we are in relationship with those around us. Sometimes when we go through a fail relationship with a friend it can also influence how we view ourselves. Coming out a fail friendship is not easy especially when you have invested yourself emotionally and spiritually in the relationship. One of the things that will help you overcome a failed friendship and improve your self-esteem is to set boundaries.

  1. Setting Boundaries: Setting boundaries will help you improve your esteem and how you view yourself and other people in a relationship. When someone comes out of a failed friendship or relationship it hinders how you view yourself in the situation. You may question if there is anything wrong with you and what you did wrong. Self-doubt hinders your identity. Setting boundaries will help you evaluate who’s in your life and will enable you to be mindful about your interactions with those coming into your life. The bible tells us to guard our hearts will all diligence.

Scripture:  Proverbs 4:23

Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life.

Guarding your heart does not mean to be guarded however it states that we must be careful of how we allow other people to come in our lives without boundaries.


  1. Be Open to New Relationships: Being open and developing new friendships/ relationship  can be hard sometimes when you’ve come out of a failed relationship. When you are open and willing to connect with new people this brings a form of healing and freedom. It makes room for something new. It also allows you to communicate with others in a healthy way. By doing this it allows you to become more vulnerable and transparent when entering in a new relationship/friendship.


  1. Becoming Secure: Coming out a fail relationship/ friendship can also affect how secure you become and how you engage with others. When coming out of something unhealthy it affects your self-image, causes you not to be secure in your identity and be guarded. When you are not secure in your identity it makes room for you to compare yourself to others, sabotage your self-image and have a lack of trust.  Becoming emotionally healed and secure allows you to live again. Oftentimes the heart of your mistrusting another person is a lack of trust in yourself to make wise decisions. If you want to be in a healthy friendship with someone, you’ll have to decide whether you’re willing to take the risk and then step out on faith.  Believe in yourself and trust that you will have a positive outcome each time.

I hope these 3 tips helped you to improve your esteem out of a failed relationship. Remember that starting over is good sometimes and we must let go of the old to step into the new

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